We all think it's gonna be smiles and happy times with our nearest and dearest on the road but the reality is different. Below are a few things to help your relationship get into tip top shape before you hit the road.
#1 Straighten things out before you go
Be honest with each other as to why your are going away. Be truthful about your concerns
#2 Never go away to save your relationship
If you don't like them before you get to the airport you're definitely going to grow to hate them on the road. Just like in real life, having a life changing event like a baby or a massive trip is only going to highlight your weaknesses. Deal with it all before you go.Then if you can't sort things go on your own rather than breaking up on the road.
#3 Remember this is the most important person in your life
It's easy to get carried away with all the cool inspirational people you meet and forget or neglect the one you love the most. Be true to who you are and don't sell your loved one out for kudos with the hip kids.
#4 External pressure
This links to the point above. So you're 35 but you're on the road with loads of youngsters who are really cool and fun but in reality they're on a South East Asian pub crawl. Why are you stood in a bar in your pants at 3am swinging your t-shirt around your head with your partner nowhere to be seen? Don't bow to the pressure of this circuit it's not why you are there. Drinking and alcohol can cause some of the worst situations. Everyone loves a beer but just be social not stupid.
#5 Be wary of change
You are both going to grow and change through your trip, hopefully for the better so be prepared to embrace and nurture your new found beliefs and direction in life. It's also important to play devils advocate and stop your partner in crime become that anoying hippy topper with a guitar always showing off about everything
#6 At least your not alone
Travelling can be scary at times. You've just arrived in a new country no English spoken, you're lost, hungry and your bags are heavy.. to add to it you are arguing with your partner!! Just take time in these moments to breath an appreciate your are not alone and at least you have someone to talk to about the situation. Try to take the lead, act confident and if all else fails go into a restaurant or cafe if available to sit and regroup, gather your thoughts. Within no time you will be sorted, panic over.
#7 Spend time apart where possible
When you are in a safe environment with people you trust take the opportunity to split up and do different things for the day. Absence makes the heart grow fonder after all.
#8 Teamwork is essential
It's really important that you both try to take the lead at times it evens out the responsibility. You may not want to look a fool playing charades asking for directions in a foreign country but sometimes you've just got to do it for the sake of your relationship. The burden of having to do everything can be too much for one person and cause resentment.
Travelling can sometimes become this incredible race to see and do everything in the time you have because you're on a big "holiday". Holidaying, travelling and living on the road are all different but your relationship with fast burnout if you try to do too much. Take time to have evenings or days just reading and watching DVDs or lazing in the sun! It's so important.
#10 The Quote
Its so true try and always rememeber at least you have each other to share these amazing times with.